How gender role ideology is measured and why I think it doesn't capture the complexity of two people in a hetereosexual relationship just trying to survive
Yes. This is one of the main points I made in this piece, that simple binaries of provider/homemaker, paid/unpaid just don't capture the nuance and complexity of (in the case I'm speaking of) a couple just trying to survive and support each other along the way. Really, such binaries make some work invisible and undervalued at a social level but that doesn't mean an individual couple see it that way. As I said in the piece, for myself and himself, we see all the things we both do and recognise they're interchangeable between us and all contribute to the complex mosaic of our life.
Yes! Yes! Yessss! Loved this .... I've done a lot of reading and learning about the masculine / feminine from an energy perspective... because energy is simply energy... there's no bias, prejudice, agenda, right or wrong... it just is... and... energy is both masculine and feminine in nature.... the masculine Polarity being one of action and movement, the feminine Polarity being one of receptivity and creativity.... one is interdependent on the other.... and so when I've wanted to understand my own basic needs as a woman and how that relates to reality... I look at the untainted natural dance of energy and the polarities and what each needs.... David Daiida in his book Intimate Communion does a better job of explaining this dance....but what I've learned us the masculine and feminine have natural roles... and while we fight for more 'equality' really what I feel we have missed is... it's not equality we really seek... because, personally speaking, we are NOT equal... man equals man, woman equals woman, but man does nor equal woman and woman does not equal man.... they cannot be the same... they are polarities... SOOOOO.... what are we seeking? Fairness!! I feel we have gotten lost in a battle for equality that doesnt exist and have gotten off track in realising what we, especially as women, have been seeking is fairness.... and the freedom that fairness and the opportunity to rebalance offers... we seek balance through that fairness.... and in knowing that balance in itself is not a stagnant state but an ever-changing point, then .... in this post what I see and feel is a couple 'relating' to each other 'balancing' each other.... whether that means you're at home and he's working or vice versa... the dance is balance, relating, fairness, and in that attitudes can be that which ensures the balance remains fair... rather than the behaviour alone.... love it!!!
The real question is, are you enjoying being at home compared to having to work away from home for days at a time like your husband does to support and provide for you?
I find the "unpaid work" narrative a bit galling, when I had to get up fourty feet in the air on a rickety ladder to fix a roof slate at home, I wasn't paid for that.
Yes. This is one of the main points I made in this piece, that simple binaries of provider/homemaker, paid/unpaid just don't capture the nuance and complexity of (in the case I'm speaking of) a couple just trying to survive and support each other along the way. Really, such binaries make some work invisible and undervalued at a social level but that doesn't mean an individual couple see it that way. As I said in the piece, for myself and himself, we see all the things we both do and recognise they're interchangeable between us and all contribute to the complex mosaic of our life.
Yes! Yes! Yessss! Loved this .... I've done a lot of reading and learning about the masculine / feminine from an energy perspective... because energy is simply energy... there's no bias, prejudice, agenda, right or wrong... it just is... and... energy is both masculine and feminine in nature.... the masculine Polarity being one of action and movement, the feminine Polarity being one of receptivity and creativity.... one is interdependent on the other.... and so when I've wanted to understand my own basic needs as a woman and how that relates to reality... I look at the untainted natural dance of energy and the polarities and what each needs.... David Daiida in his book Intimate Communion does a better job of explaining this dance....but what I've learned us the masculine and feminine have natural roles... and while we fight for more 'equality' really what I feel we have missed is... it's not equality we really seek... because, personally speaking, we are NOT equal... man equals man, woman equals woman, but man does nor equal woman and woman does not equal man.... they cannot be the same... they are polarities... SOOOOO.... what are we seeking? Fairness!! I feel we have gotten lost in a battle for equality that doesnt exist and have gotten off track in realising what we, especially as women, have been seeking is fairness.... and the freedom that fairness and the opportunity to rebalance offers... we seek balance through that fairness.... and in knowing that balance in itself is not a stagnant state but an ever-changing point, then .... in this post what I see and feel is a couple 'relating' to each other 'balancing' each other.... whether that means you're at home and he's working or vice versa... the dance is balance, relating, fairness, and in that attitudes can be that which ensures the balance remains fair... rather than the behaviour alone.... love it!!!
The real question is, are you enjoying being at home compared to having to work away from home for days at a time like your husband does to support and provide for you?
I find the "unpaid work" narrative a bit galling, when I had to get up fourty feet in the air on a rickety ladder to fix a roof slate at home, I wasn't paid for that.