As always... with every read, the lens through which I have been viewing my world (unbeknown to me previously, which has been seemingly foggyied over) becomes more and more clear.... you keep highlighting that which is in plain sight and yet hard to see...
It's as though these views and perspectives are bringing to life a numbness or deadness in an arm long fallen asleep!!
I have often been told, you're some woman, you're so strong, as though ita admirable... and its usually been in reference to people hearing I've written a book and spoken of my experience of abuse in childhood, or the crazy experiences I had with a close call almost marrying a man who I discovered just in time that he was living a double life as a sex addict and hiding his gas tendencies, and how I got through all of it... I'm often told how strong I am... and it does feel like a badge of honor when it's said, yet there's always a part of me that just feels like .... well... me! It wasn't that I was strong, it was because I had no choice... get through it of give up and leave this world.... they were the only choices... so I chose to fight for my life and stay!
So... what we are speaking of really is, aren't we strong to 'put up' with it all... why? Because what choices did we have, do we have, but to 'put up' with it...
However, this work, and the highlighting of areas which we have so long felt numb to... is giving us ways out, showing us we have alternatives, choices...
I feel the reason we were never shown all this in school was because if we saw how other women before us broke the chain of command and broke the rules... it would show us women that there were other ways, there were choices... but we had no role models
So... we had to be strong to cope... we had to because we had no other choices and didn't know they existed....because if we did, it would be a threat to the peace...
Look at Sinead O Connor... an example to women to stay silent or been seen as insane, emotional, or disruptive...shhh...silence now!
This one probably speaks the most to my own experience. My grandmother and mother were both widowed in their 50's with 8 children apiece. They typified the strong women title. As an adult facing challenges I think I felt intense shame about not coping as well as them. I think this project is amazing and can't wait to see where you go next with it. Its really illuminating what has shaped us. You communicate the findings with great clarity and compassion
As always... with every read, the lens through which I have been viewing my world (unbeknown to me previously, which has been seemingly foggyied over) becomes more and more clear.... you keep highlighting that which is in plain sight and yet hard to see...
It's as though these views and perspectives are bringing to life a numbness or deadness in an arm long fallen asleep!!
I have often been told, you're some woman, you're so strong, as though ita admirable... and its usually been in reference to people hearing I've written a book and spoken of my experience of abuse in childhood, or the crazy experiences I had with a close call almost marrying a man who I discovered just in time that he was living a double life as a sex addict and hiding his gas tendencies, and how I got through all of it... I'm often told how strong I am... and it does feel like a badge of honor when it's said, yet there's always a part of me that just feels like .... well... me! It wasn't that I was strong, it was because I had no choice... get through it of give up and leave this world.... they were the only choices... so I chose to fight for my life and stay!
So... what we are speaking of really is, aren't we strong to 'put up' with it all... why? Because what choices did we have, do we have, but to 'put up' with it...
However, this work, and the highlighting of areas which we have so long felt numb to... is giving us ways out, showing us we have alternatives, choices...
I feel the reason we were never shown all this in school was because if we saw how other women before us broke the chain of command and broke the rules... it would show us women that there were other ways, there were choices... but we had no role models
So... we had to be strong to cope... we had to because we had no other choices and didn't know they existed....because if we did, it would be a threat to the peace...
Look at Sinead O Connor... an example to women to stay silent or been seen as insane, emotional, or disruptive...shhh...silence now!
This one probably speaks the most to my own experience. My grandmother and mother were both widowed in their 50's with 8 children apiece. They typified the strong women title. As an adult facing challenges I think I felt intense shame about not coping as well as them. I think this project is amazing and can't wait to see where you go next with it. Its really illuminating what has shaped us. You communicate the findings with great clarity and compassion
This is so interesting, and hasn't changed even today.